Mindfulness is a powerful tool we can use in many aspects of our lives. Although the term mindfulness may bring up images of formal meditation, yoga, and monks, we can actually make mindfulness a foundation in other parts of daily life. Relationships are one place where mindfulness can make a world of difference.
With mindful awareness and attention, we can transform our intimate relationships. There are many ways to actively cultivate mindfulness in our lives. Here are a few ways you can put forth effort to be mindful with your partner.
1. Meditate Together
First, take the time to actually meditate together! There are many ways to practice tandem meditation, and you can find a way that works for you and your partner. Sitting together in practice has many benefits. First, you are both meditating and cultivating mindfulness individually! This is great. As you will be meditating together, you both will be dedicating the same effort, time, and energy toward mindfulness. Second, meditating together is a true act of bonding. It will help build closeness and a sense of belonging. Just find a time to meditate that works for the two of you, and give it a shot.
2. Practice Mindful Listening
Mindful listening is an incredibly powerful practice. Many of our relationship coaches dedicate time with their clients to developing this ability. Instead of just cultivating mindfulness in meditation practice, try cultivating it in a situation that is more closely related to everyday activity. You can dedicate time out to just listen to each other mindfully, or you can practice yourself. Set the intention to truly listen mindfully. Listen to your partner, don’t interrupt, and simply be present while listening. Don’t wait to talk, don’t judge, and just be fully there with your partner. Mindful listening is an important practice, and we include it in our 9 Mindfulness Exercises and Activities for Teens as well. It’s also one of our 9 Tips for Dating Someone with Depression.
3. Leave Distractions
One of the best things you can do to tune into your relationship with mindfulness is to leave the distractions behind. These days, it seems like we always have cell phones in our hands, televisions on, music playing, or other distractions going. To practice mindfulness, start by removing the distractions and try to be really present. Eat a meal without anything else going on. Take a few minutes to sit together or go for a walk. Remove yourself from the distracting situations so you can be truly together!
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